Silence of the Dates

Franz Ferdinand hit the nail on the head when they sang "No you Boys never care, how the girl feels!"

Oh yes it's another blog with me moaning about men and why I just don't understand the way they work. Recently, I guess I can say, I've been quite lucky. I've met a few guys. Everything seems to be great and there is talk of meeting again and then *silence*.

I'm convinced it must be me! On date, I insist on buying drinks, or halving the bill at a meal. I insist on be comfortable, not going somewhere were we don't have to pretend to be something we are not. I don't expect him to travel several miles to meet me, I'm happy to meet in the middle. So of course... It must be me.

As I'm rambling on, I might as well give you the story behind the most recent tale behind "Silence of the Dates".
In fact in this example, we didn't even get to the date! Me and this guy arranged to meet on Saturday a week ago. No set plans, but a definite date. In the week we started making plans, started to decide what to do, where to meet and where to go. Thursday, the plans were still not set and the texts between us consisted of, " I can't wait to see you!" "I'm really looking forward to Saturday!"
Great, you would think. Until I texted him on Friday.
I texted him 3 times. Once in the morning. Once in the early evening and the final time at 1115pm.
No reply to any of them. I was suppose to be seeing him the next day. I didn't know what to do. A few minutes later he logged on to MSN and Facebook chat and promptly signed off again.
There is no reasonable explanation for the ignorance. I don't know what I did wrong. Even one of my best male friends said that he is baffled. Why go to the effort, for nothing!

This is just 1 of many silences I've experienced after dates. About a month ago, I dated a guy who I knew was crazy about me. He looked at me in a certain way, kept in constant ­contact with lots of texts, calls for no reason, texts chasing replies to his previous texts.
We had one date, it was great, Chemistry bouncing of the walls, lots of flirty remarks and touches. Promises that we will do this all again next week and then *bam!* He changed. Communication slowed down, almost to a halt! We still arranged a second date and he was 'sick' on the day.
And suddenly it was all over. I have no clue whether or not he was lying.
But I still think about it. I mean, Why did he say he liked me if he didn’t? Why did he arrange a second date and then stop talking to me?

Men, if you are reading this. BE HONEST!
If you don't want to see us, tell us! We'd rather you be honest and then we can have a cry and a bitch over that rather than cry and bitch over the unknown and work us into a emotion mess and stalk your facebook/twitter/bebo/myspace/[enter social networking site] profile!

Honesty, is, in most respects, the best policy!

The Tale of the Nearly Married's

The Nearly Marrieds - The Greek God, The Northern Monkey and the Indie Boy

The Greek God
The unconventional choice of lust. A guy from the internet. We've met twice, snogged once. He then after told me he was with his then girlfriend, now soon-to-be wife - Mrs Greek.

Careless move, YES. But I was none the wiser! We speak every now and then on MSN and every time after the niceties of "How are you?" " How's work, your nan and your fish" the messages are "Nice Pic! Looking Hot. Reminds me of that time when.... "
HELL NO!
All he wants is pictures and my take on the memories.

Flattered, Naturally

The Northern Monkey
Another not so great choice of someone to fancy. He's a guy on the phone. A business associate. Someone who I have never seen in person. We speak through the channels of work and is a MAJOR flirt. He wants to send me pictures to show off. Yes, show off...! Shocking I know. This guy who is sooooo in love wants to send me a picture of his thing. Even though he is cocky (excuse the pun) with his confidence he is actual very nice to me and pays me compliment that I don't get (not even from exs).
But this doesn't excuse the betrayal to his love, his fiance.

The best of the 3 is the Indie Boy. A tragic tale of love.

The Indie Boy
He's the one I have the most history with. If you like, we dated.. kind of. A few dates and stuff. There was intimacy. I was totally into him and he was into me or so I thought. A few months after it all went wrong, he started dating the future Mrs. Indie Boy.
So in love that they got engaged after about 8 months and are due to marry this May.
Yet, since their engagement he is obviously not as in love as he thinks.
This guy is like a dog on heat and don't I know it!
Every MSN conversation, private facebook message is him wanting to reminise over the good times. The times that get him excited and wanna work it off. He requests pictures, dirty talk and when i confront him with a blindingly OBVIOUS statement of "Do you not love her??" I get, "Of course I do, but there's something about you!"

These Nearly Married's strike fear and dash the hopes of any single girl. How can we meet men and trust them when these 3 examples of men who have proposed to their dearly beloved and want to commit the rest of there lives to Momogamy are breaking the boundaries of flirting. What worries me is that these ladies who are marrying the most AMAZING man they have ever met do not know what is going on when they are not around.

How can I find and meet someone when there maybe a chance that under the sweet exterior and the person you have got to love and know, that they will not do that to me...